The name of the subject would be Effective Communication.
Haa time exam baru belajar nyah.
Tak tahu lah aku buat apa dalam class selama ni.
I learned about how relationship works.
I also learned about how relationship wrecks.
Why in life we need communication?
- To meet each others need.
- To gain more information.
- To lessen loneliness.
- To maximize pleasure and minimize pain.
From here, I started to think;
If the communication only brings pain, then we should do something lah kan? Now that's when conflict comes.
The way you handle conflict would change things.
How relationship works?
- Examine qualifiers. From here you see the qualities that you want at that particular person. Attractions.
- Determine clearance. At this point we observe. Does the person okay for us to reach?
- Make contact. Aha from here verbally or non verbally. Eye contact, senyum senyum, tegur.
- Experimenting; the process to get to know a person.
- Intensifying; A desire to meet each other more often. Mutual thing.
- Integrating; The person is becoming a part of life. Where people start to notice both of you.
- Bonding. Where you start to commit seriously. Like..a marriage.
How relationship wrecks?
- Differentiating. We start to see more differences instead of similarities.
- Circumscribing. We start to blame each other as communication interaction is decreasing and becoming negative.
- Stagnating. We start to engage life as individuals -- separately.
- Avoiding. We start to avoid each other and the level of disagreements & frustration getting serious from here.
- Terminating. We no longer want to see each other and no longer want to be seen together.
As much as I can relate to these two, I freaking feel the 2nd part better.
In life we would have 5 different style to overcome conflicts..
I'm not sure myself which one is the best one for me.
